Things are the same; maybe worse. He is drinking at lest once a week now. When he drinks, he will drink anywhere from 24 to 72 hours at a time. This is while juggling college courses and taking certification tests. He even excels at school. He will be graduating in September and I was stupid enough to pay his reinstatement fee to the state so that he can take his driver’s test and possibly be able to get a job and drive to and from. I talked it over with him and told him I wouldn’t pay it unless he started making efforts to go to meetings and not drink. I sit here in tears now because the money has been spent on the fee, but he’s drank about 4 or 5 times since I’ve paid it. There is no hope for him or for us. When will I get the courage to go talk to an attorney?
Otherwise, I am plugging along. I have my job and of course the strength of a few close friends and family. They all think I’m an idiot for staying, but God bless them – they don’t tell me that to my face.
He has class tomorrow and he just went out for another 40oz; his third of the day (that I am aware of). He also had a 6-pack of “tall boys” this afternoon. Friday he takes another test that we (read: I) paid $75 for and I’m sure the money is non-refundable if the test taker is too drunk to show up.
What a mess.
PS. I know that you will ask me about Al Anon again, and I think I am going to start going again with a friend whose brother is a recovering alcoholic/heroin addict. I will definitely let you know how that goes.
The Alcoholic Marriage 