After he took the $8 from me, he told me he was going to be sitting out on the front porch, so I didn’t think anything of it by 9pm and he still hadn’t come inside. Unfortunately, bad thoughts kept creeping into my mind so I decided to call him; no answer. I put some clothes on and went downstairs to see if he was still on the porch, but he was nowhere to be seen. I tried to tell myself that he was fine, albeit drunk, and I shouldn’t worry. However, physiologically, I couldn’t control my racing heart. I went back upstairs and called a friend and she did calm me down a bit and when we hung up, I was prepared to lay down and go to sleep. The minute my head hit the pillow, though, the racing heart and thoughts were back.
I got up at midnight and walked around the apartment, tried to call him and found no sign of him. I tried going back to sleep but still was unable to. At 1:30 I got up and noticed the hall light was off. There he was, passed out on the ottoman in the living room.
All night I had been thinking I may have to file a missing person’s report. Or, possibly, he wound up in the hospital? Well, I told myself, I would serve him divorce papers if that was the case. Jail? I doubted it; he would have called. I kept trying to tell myself that he was sitting in a park somewhere, drinking his cheap ass beer, and that he was fine, but my heart and head were thinking otherwise.
I awoke at 5am, to him saying my name and shaking me. He wanted more money for cigarettes. I kept telling him NO and telling him to fuck off, but he won’t let up. Just as always, he will start raising his voice a little bit and he does a lot of pacing. After almost an hour of it, I got up, having only 3 hours (maybe?) of sleep and got ready for work. Yes, I gave him $5 for cigarettes. He wasn’t going to school, he told me, because he was hung over. I told him I would like to stay home since I got no sleep, but realistically, I couldn’t. He doesn’t get it. He is a selfish fucking drunk.
As I was finishing up and almost ready to walk out the door, he told me he needed quarters in case he ran out of cigarettes during the day – he could go buy a cigar. I left and haven’t had any contact with him since.
Today I am tired and I feel anxious. My head and eyes hurt from getting so little sleep. I want peace. I just want out of all of this. Garnishment, debt, 3 jobs, a crappy car, no future. That’s all I have. I am set up to fail and I don’t know how to escape this downward spiral I’m caught in.
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